on Fri, 12/12/2014 - 12:14 by Bob Dickman (not verified)
I appreciate your candor in describing the difficult situation you found youself in.It seems like a human blindspot to categorize the highly complex coaching situation as either/or: advise/no advise.I found your insight about seeing advise giving on a continuum as very useful.I have given advise at times. And before I give that advise I try to ask myself what am I feeling about my client at that moment? Am I feeling frustrated because I feel pressure that I have to achieve results for the client's sake or my sponsor's sake? In other words I try to take a couple of seconds to reflect before I open my mouth and give that advise. These reflective few seconds helps me reframe my desire to advise. It also prevents me from making advise giving a knee jerk reaction to my own unexamined needs for quick results.
coaching continuum
I appreciate your candor in describing the difficult situation you found youself in.It seems like a human blindspot to categorize the highly complex coaching situation as either/or: advise/no advise.I found your insight about seeing advise giving on a continuum as very useful.I have given advise at times. And before I give that advise I try to ask myself what am I feeling about my client at that moment? Am I feeling frustrated because I feel pressure that I have to achieve results for the client's sake or my sponsor's sake? In other words I try to take a couple of seconds to reflect before I open my mouth and give that advise. These reflective few seconds helps me reframe my desire to advise. It also prevents me from making advise giving a knee jerk reaction to my own unexamined needs for quick results.